Divorce. Is It Worth It?

When I was about 12 years old my parents divorced. For me it was not a big adjustment as he had been a long-haul truck driver so he was not home that much to begin with. My mom shielded me as best as she could as to the real reason for the divorce which had been helpful at the time, but as I grew up I picked up on the reasons; affairs, anger issues, and abuse.
While the divorce was a good thing, it still messed me up a bit. My mom remarried and he became the man I consider my father. While they do not have the perfect marriage they showed me what a good marriage can be, but it took a long time for that.
At the time of getting married I did not really know what to look for in a marriage which lead to three failed marriages. While going through my third divorce I started going to therapy for PTSD, it also helped me to realize what I needed to look for and how to set healthy boundaries. I also started reading my scriptures and going to the temple every Friday so that I could feel the spirit better so I could make a better choice about who I marry.
Now my children are children of divorce unfortunately. I try to give them the stability that children need. I am also trying to raise them with a good, gospel centered foundation which is hard as their dads have left the church and have been making unwise choices.
Can divorce be a good thing? Yes, but I would encourage to pray about it first. It would also be good to make a good choice and pray to Heavenly Father if the person you want to marry is a good choice. It is also good to have a courtship long enough you can see the person in all types of situations prior to marriage.

“I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step is not separation but reformation.” Divorce by Dallin H. Oaks

“If our bodies are sick, we seek to heal them. We do not give up. While there is any prospect of life , we seek healing again and again. The same should be true of our marriages, and if we seek Him, the Lord will help us and heal us.” Divorce by Dallin H. Oaks