This week our lesson has been about turning towards each other. We read a story from a BYU student called Turn Toward One Another. The husband decided to do a secret experiment about turning towards his wife. Instead of saying no to doing things with her like running errands he would say yes. He would look for ways so that he could say yes to her even changing his plans to do so. He started to have the desire to do more for her like watching the children so that she could do things she enjoyed, but could not because she did not have someone to watch the children. What he found was that as he did this his wife was more willing to let him enjoy things he likes to do and helped nurture fondness and admirations for each other.
I think this change happened because she started to feel like she was important and a priority to her husband.
My husband and I do not spend much time together as my husband generally turns towards his games. I cannot have a conversation with him as he is always staring at his phone and does not really hear what I am telling him. I am hoping that with the weekly date assignment that we can turn things around. I also shared the above story with him though I am not sure if he has read it. He later said that he skimmed it because “he didn’t have time.” This is just an excuse though as he spends hours on his games and reading would have taken five minutes. I had also ordered off amazon some conversation starters called “Our Moments- Couples. Conversation starters for great relationships.” It kind of feels like we are going on a first date because we are so out of touch with each other as distractions have taken over. I am hoping that after this assignment is over that we will continue going on weekly dates.
So our first date did not go as planned do to not having a babysitter. What we did is we decided to go hiking as a family. It was a lot of fun going on the different trails. It was also nice to get to spend time with my husband without his phone.
What distractions are keeping us from turning to our spouse? Are these distractions worth what you are losing out on?
An Eternal Marriage 